Vows Q&A: Allan & Kal
A: Allan – We met at work and when I first saw her, I thought to myself, “She is very pretty and I want to talk to her.” After two years of waving and smiling at her, I finally had the opportunity to talk to her. At first, I was nervous but slowly I began to make small talk with her. Finally as I was leaving the office, I gave her my number and told her if she ever wanted to go for coffee or a walk to give me a call.
Kal – I remember seeing him wave at me every morning. His hair was longer at the time and he often wore a toque. I use to think he looked like Keanu Reeves. Every morning that he waved at me, I would think he seems like a nice guy.
Q: What do you love most about one another?
A: Allan – When I first saw her, I really liked her smile and eyes. As I got to know her better, I fell in love with her great outlook on life and her loving and caring nature. I love her drive for furthering herself through school. I love how she goes out of her way to make me feel good. She is a very smart person and this is very attractive to me.
Kal – I love the fact he is such an amazing person and is always caring and thinking of others. He is an awesome cook and a very down-to-earth person. If I am feeling down, he is always there for me and when I am sick, he takes care of me. He is my best friend and soul mate. We just clicked like I have never clicked with anyone before. I knew he was the man I would marry.
Q: Tell us about the proposal?
A: Allan – I remember being nervous about asking her the question. I was hoping the rain would hold off so we could have a nice walk through Deas Island Regional Park. This is where we went on our first date and Kal had found a heart shaped rock that day. I thought this would be the perfect place to ask her.
Kal – I remember the day he asked me. We were headed to Deas Island, but he had to stop off at his mom’s house before we went. As we were walking by the water, he asked me to marry him and presented me with his Grandma’s engagement ring, which he had gone to his mom’s house to pick up! It was really sweet and I cherish the ring to this day.
Q: Tell us about your wedding?
A: Kal – The first wedding was the traditional Indian ceremony at the Gurdwara in Port Alberni. The Western wedding, our second ceremony, took place on our reception date aboard a boat. I remember walking in the temple as the ceremony was about to begin. I could not see Allan as he was already up front sitting down. When I finally did see him, I thought he looked amazing in the traditional Indian outfit. Our wedding day was amazing and I have to thank my mom for everything she did to make the day!
Allan – I could not sleep the night before the wedding, as I was excited and looking forward to experiencing the traditional Indian ceremony. I was happy to find out the wedding ceremony would be performed in Punjabi and English, and it was a great experience to be a part of such a beautiful ceremony.
Q: What was your favourite moment of your wedding day?
A: Allan – When we went to the park and took pictures with some of our closest family and friends.
Kal – Sitting next to my husband during the wedding ceremony and at one point, we looked at one another and smiled.
Q: Can you describe your outfits?
A: Allan – I wore the traditional Indian male outfit with a hot pink turban, which an older gentleman helped me put on.
Kal – I wore the traditional wedding lengha, which was hot pink with such wonderful details all over the outfit. I wore gold heels with fake crystals all over the straps, and I loved the Indian jewellery. My outfit was beautiful, and it made me feel like a princess.
Q: Tell us about your reception?
A: Kal – The reception was the best part – aboard the Queen of Diamonds boat from Vancouver Cruises. Before we sailed, we had our Western wedding at the top of the boat. The day was so lovely with the sun shining and the breeze blowing in from the water. The staff was great and took care of everything from decorating to providing the DJ; it was an amazing night full of Indian music and dancing. The night was truly unforgettable for all our friends and family.
Q: What are your favourite quotes?
A: Allan – “Patience is a virtue.”
Kal – “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein.
Q: What have been some of the biggest challenges you have overcome as a couple?
A: Allan – Kal has to deal with me being sick often due to my Crohn’s disease.
Kal – Even if you see each other every day, you need to make an effort and spend some quality time together as a couple, whether that is going for a walk, going to a movie or spending family time with our two cats, Bella and Marcus.
Another challenge is being able to not let ignorance get in the way of your relationship. I remember when we first started dating, some of the East Indian men at work found out and they treated me poorly. This was hard to understand at first, but I got through it. Everyone has a right to their own opinion.
Q: What are the strengths of your marriage?
A: Allan – Our ability to communicate with each other and overcome anything. We do things together as a couple and make sure to spend quality time with one another.
Kal – To always be open and share your feelings. Do not bottle up things inside. If something is bothering you, let the other person know and work on it. We are not perfect but we make sure to work on things and it helps us become a stronger and more unified couple.
Q: If you could provide any advice to other married couples, what would it be?
A: Allan – Communication is key in a relationship. Patience with each other when a difficult problem occurs is very important. In order to understand your significant other, you have to be able to put yourselves in their shoes.
Christopher Allan Moore
Kalwinderjit Kaur Bath