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Resilience, what is it, and how do we build it?

Dr. Shimi Kang & Jas Hundal Darpan, 02 Oct, 2023 11:12 AM
  • Resilience, what is it, and how do we build it?

In our ever-evolving world, characterized by burnout, disconnection, disruptive changes, and rapid innovations, developing resilience is an overlooked skill set. We often tend to avoid our problems or want to solve them with a quick-fix solution before moving on to the next task. By slowing down and building resilience, we can create adaptive strategies to help us acclimate to life's challenges and adjust to external and internal demands. 

Now, what is resilience in the first place? Think back to when you faced a challenge, and instead of dwelling on the negatives, you decided to take action despite the setback and adapted to the situation. We all face different challenges in life, and being resilient doesn't mean that you won't feel the emotional pain or stress, but instead, you will work through it and build a coping strategy that is unique to you. 

Resiliency becomes a desired skill set as we face multiple triggers daily. We can tap into our strengths and use healthier coping mechanisms to process and overcome hardship. If you'd like to become more resilient, consider these tips:

Be optimistic. 

You can't change the past, but can always look toward the future. Being aware that change is inevitable allows you to be more flexible and open to challenges.

Daily Gratitude. 

Make each day count and participate in an activity that has a purpose and gives you a sense of accomplishment. 

Learn from the past. 

Our past hardships are our best teachers. Think back to difficult times and what helped you cope. 

You may even have a mantra or specific affirmations that you can write in a journal to help guide you in the future. 

Self-Care. 

This is where you pay more attention to your own needs and feelings. Participate in things that bring you joy, and include physical activity in your daily routine. A healthy diet and a good night's rest are crucial to optimizing your health. Practice stress management and relaxation techniques, such as yoga, meditation, guided imagery, deep breathing or prayer.

Stay connected. 

Building strong, positive relationships with others can provide you with needed support, guidance and acceptance in good and bad times. 

Becoming more resilient takes time and patience. If you are faced with ongoing challenges and are getting stuck, consider talking to a mental health professional. With guidance, you can improve your resilience and mental wealth. For more information on such topics, check out the following links: 

@futurereadyminds

www.futurereadyminds.com

info@futurereadyminds.com

Dr. Shimi Kang is an award-winning Harvard-trained medical doctor, researcher, and expert on science-based health, happiness, and achievement solutions. Dr. Kang is a practicing psychiatrist with over 20 years of experience. She is the author of the #1 bestseller The Dolphin Parent & The Tech Solution, a Clinical Associate Professor at UBC, the founder of Future-ready Minds, Co-Founder of the Get Sparky app, & host of the YouTube show Mental Wealth with Dr. Kang. She is a proud mom of 3, the Governor General's Award for Leadership recipient, and the Jubilee Medal for community service.

Jas Hundal is a Registered Social Worker and the Clinical Director of Counselling at Future-ready Minds; she has her Masters of Social Work from the University of Victoria and a Certificate in Advanced Facilitation and consultation from the Justice Institute of BC. Jas is trained in various therapeutic modalities and has worked diligently in mental health and addictions since 2006. Jas is passionate about helping members of her community learn ways to improve their mental health by using holistic and strength-based practices.

 

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